Liz Langshur, ALMFT
Liz Langshur, ALMFT
PRONOUNS: she/her
relationship + Sex therapist
SPECIALTIES:
Mismatched Desire
General Couples Therapy + Communication
Modern Dating
Kink and BDSM
Anxiety + Depression
Rediscovering Pleasure
Sexual Dysfunction
Rediscovering Pleasure
New or Emerging Couples
RATE:
Accepts BCBS PPO and Private Pay
Most of us were never really taught how to want things.
We got a lot of messages growing up about how to look, how to act, and what relationships should look like. Not so much about our own bodies, or our own desires, or how to even talk about any of it out loud. So these messages tend to follow us into adulthood — they show up in how we date, how we have sex, and how close we actually let people get to us.
Getting to know what we want means getting to know ourselves. It means learning to listen to our bodies, making sense of our desires, and finding the confidence to communicate what feels good, what doesn’t, and what we need. And as we become more connected to ourselves, it can change how we show up with other people, too.
That kind of understanding doesn’t happen overnight, and you don’t have to come to therapy having figured any of it out. I want therapy to be a place where you can show up exactly as you are — you don’t need to have the right words or know exactly what you need before you walk through the door. Whether it’s your first time in therapy or your fiftieth, we can start wherever you are.
My style as a clinician is warm, attentive, and calm, while also bringing a playful energy to our work together. I hope therapy can feel like a place where you can be yourself and explore the parts of yourself and your relationships that may be difficult to talk about elsewhere.
I draw primarily from Emotionally Focused Therapy, and attachment lens approaches, paying attention to the emotions and needs underneath the patterns we get stuck in. I also pull from the Gottman Method and Internal Family Systems, and overall, I take an integrative approach to therapy because I don't believe there is one "right" way to do therapy. I want our work together to fit who you are, what you're experiencing, and what feels most helpful. I also strive to practice in a culturally responsive way, since our identities, relationships, families, and the world around us all shape our experiences.
I enjoy working with individuals and couples navigating a wide range of concerns, including desire differences, sexual dysfunction, BDSM and kink, relationship and communication challenges, anxiety, and depression. I'm particularly interested in working with people who want to reconnect with their sexuality, better understand their desires, or explore what pleasure and intimacy look like for them. I like working with couples at every stage — whether that’s brand new couples trying to build something solid, or long-term couples working through a transition.
I earned my Master of Science in Marriage and Family Therapy from Northwestern University. In my free time, I love reading, cooking and baking, spending time with family and friends, and usually having some kind of creative project underway.
