Sex therapy in chicago

You deserve a vibrant and pleasurable sex life.

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We’ll help you overcome barriers to intimacy and create a sex life that lights you up.

Has sex become just another task on your to-do list? Would you like to enjoy sex more but your body doesn't respond how you wish it would? Do you struggle with painful sex, erection difficulties, or don't orgasm when you want?

Our therapists know that sex is a fundamental part of your overall well-being. But when sex becomes a nagging to-do as opposed to a sensual, erotic adventure, it can have a negative effect on your entire relationship.

That's where we come in. Our sex therapists are here to help you create a sex life you look forward to: be it expansive, erotic, sensual, loving, or playful. (Or all of the above!)

Whether you’re single, dating, or in a relationship, our therapists will help you get creative and curious about your sexual wants and needs. We'll help you explore your sexuality on your own terms.

By providing you with the right tools and resources, and guiding you in having loving conversations with your partner, we can help you create a sex life that is pleasurable, satisfying, and what you've been craving.

We can help with:

mismatched
desire

Painful Sex

Sexual
Dysfunction

Lack of
Orgasm

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out of control
Sexual behavior

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Low Sex
Drive

Sexual Trauma
recovery

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Kink &
BDSM

Arousal
Difficulty

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gender &
sexuality

Sexual
Shame

The Benefits of Sex Therapy:

Before

There is a huge gap between the amount of intimacy we want. One of us feels pressured into sex. The other often feels rejected and undesired. Our frustrations turn into fights that make us feel even more mismatched sexually. Do we have to settle for an unsatisfying sex life where neither one of us is happy?

After

We communicate respectfully and compassionately about our desires in a way that brings us closer. We're more sexually connected to ourselves and each other. We feel like a team, working towards a common solution where each partner's sexual needs are heard, honored, and valued.

Before

Due to childbirth, relationship stress, or sexual dysfunction, my sex life feels unsatisfying. I experience pain during sex, difficulty with orgasm, or don't feel in the mood to be sexual. My body doesn't respond how I wish it would, and I feel anxiety, shame, and avoidance around sex. I feel like I'm the problem and that I must overly focus on my partner to protect their feelings.

After

I can talk openly and honestly about my sexual challenges and needs. I better understand my body and how to experience the pleasure I desire. I'm able to experience sexual fulfillment, manage any sexual pain, and have a sex life I look forward to. I have a better understanding of who I am as a sexual person and feel confident expressing my desires to my partner.

Before

Due to performance anxiety, negative sexual experiences, reliance on porn, or a medical condition, my sex life feels frustrating and unsatisfying. It’s easier to avoid sex than to talk to my partner about what’s happening with me. Even so, I feel embarrassed, ashamed, and not good enough. It's like I have no control.

After

I feel more confident and connected in the bedroom, with a better understanding of what my body needs. I feel less embarrassed, less pressure, and more in control of myself. Even when it's hard, I'm able to communicate my sexual desires with my partner instead of avoiding sex. I feel excited to connect sexually with my partner again.

Before

We want to explore new, exciting types of intimacy, ethical nonmonogamy, or kink/BDSM, but the topic brings up fear and insecurity for us. We're anxious that new experiences will expose past hurts that haven't ever healed. We're afraid of unintentionally causing irreparable damage in our relationship. We don't know how to begin this overwhelming process.

After

We're proud to be creating an unshakable foundation for deeper, more adventurous intimacy. We can talk calmly about hard topics or sexual needs without exploding or shutting down. There's healing around past mistakes and we know how to handle any bumps in the road. We've become excellent communicators, confidently equipped to negotiate relationship agreements when our needs and desires change.

Meet our premarital therapists in Chicago, IL

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    Michelle Herzog, LMFT, CST

    • Credentials: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist

    • Years in Practice: 12

    • Specialty Areas: Mismatched Desire, Pre-Orgasmic Women, Modern Dating, Painful Sex, Infidelity, Sexual Dysfunction, Transition to Parenthood, Dating Anxiety

    Meet Michelle
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    Corie Carson, LMFT

    • Credentials: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Clinical Supervisor

    • Years in Practice: 7

    • Specialty Areas: Mismatched Desire, Sexual Dysfunction, Consensual Non-Monogamy, General Couples Work, Infidelity, ADHD in Relationships, Identity Exploration & LGBTQ+ Care, Divorce & Breakup Recovery

    Meet Corie
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    Allison Colaianni, LMFT

    • Credentials: Associate Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

    • Years in Practice: 3

    • Specialty Areas: Mismatched Desire, Couples Communication, Sexual Shame, Sexual Dysfunction, Painful Sex, Modern Dating, Consensual Non-Monogamy, BDSM & Kink

    Meet Allison
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    Tony Peters, MFT

    • Credentials: Associate Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

    • Years in Practice: 2

    • Specialty Areas: Mismatched Desire, Men’s Sexual Health, LGBTQIA+ Relationships, Infidelity, Out of Control Sexual Behavior, Relationship Jealousy, Anxiety & Depression, Consensual Non-Monogamy

    Meet Tony

  • Alma Quiroz, LPC

    • Credentials: Licensed Professional Counselor and bilingual therapist 

    • Years in Practice: 1

    • Specialty Areas: Mismatched Desire, Sexual Dysfunction, Polyamory and Consensual Non-Monogamy, Infidelity and Violations of Trust, Multicultural Couples Therapy, Couples Communication, Sexual Trauma, Kink and BDSM

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  • Jess Benge, MA, MS, MFT

    • Credentials: Marriage and Family Therapist

    • Years in Practice: 2

    • Specialty Areas: Infidelity or Break in Trust, Mismatched Desire, BDSM, Kink, or Paraphilia Disorders, Couple’s Communication, Out of Control Sexual Behavior, Insecure Attachment Styles, Modern Dating, Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)/Complex PTSD

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What exactly is Sex Therapy?

Hint: We won't make it awkward.

Sex therapy is a type of specialized talk therapy that helps you (partnered or solo) experience more pleasure, wellness, and vibrancy in your sex life and relationships.

We know how painfully awkward it can feel to talk about sex with a stranger. Our first priority is to make you feel comfortable so you can take steps toward the sex life you want. Our clients find our warm and conversational approach helps them feel at ease and confident they're working with a professional who really gets it.

Our sex therapists cultivate the trifecta of top-notch sex therapy: highly skilled, deeply caring, and down-to-earth relatable.

We want to hear it all--the good, the bad, and the confusing! By getting to know your history, wants, desires, and barriers to pleasurable sex, we'll provide feedback and tools to help you become your fullest, most pleasurable sexual self.

Here’s what we know: Your sexuality is multi-faceted and complex. We understand that sex is not that straightforward, and could be influenced by past traumatic experiences, religious upbringing, shame, cultural influences and so much more. Our therapists are here to guide you through the many layers that make you, you. Because at the end of the day, we want to see you have a vibrant, pleasurable sex life.

Get Started

Schedule your free, 30 minute phone consultation with one of our sex therapists today.

Better sex starts with communication.

Download our free Sexual Communication Handbook to access over 200 questions to get you and your partner sharing, connecting, and exploring.