Polyamory Therapist Chicago

Build confidence and trust in your polyamorous relationship.

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We’ll help you build a polyamorous relationship that works for all of you.

Are you looking for a therapist who truly understands and respects your polyamorous relationship? Are you considering opening your relationship for the first time, and need help creating relationship agreements and boundaries? Are you seeking an open and comfortable space to expand your relationship structure?

Our therapists understand how critical it is to work with a poly-affirming professional who won't shame or judge you for your alternative relationship. All of our therapists are specially trained in working with polyamorous relationships, and some are even part of the community.

Whether you're seeking to open your relationship for the first time, you're part of a polycule, or are looking to strengthen the consensually non-monogamous relationship you already have, we're here to help you expand and explore your relationship dynamic with confidence and care.

Polyamory therapy can help with:

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Clear communication

Relationship hierarchy

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Polycules

Relationship anarchy

Polyamory and parenting

Relationship agreements

Jealousy and attachmenT

Swinging

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Open marriageS

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Ethical non monogamy

Establishing boundaries

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The Benefits of Polyamory Counseling:

Before

We recently opened our relationship, but are finding ourselves on completely different pages with what our boundaries are. We keep hurting each other because we're each not getting what we need.

After

We finally have an established relationship agreement that works for both of us. We can openly communicate when issues arise, and we're both feeling fulfilled by the relationships we're building with other partners.

Before

We've been a poly couple for years, but recently, a betrayal was discovered that's complicating our relationship. We realize we can't move forward without processing this betrayal and re-establishing our boundaries and communication.

After

Working through our betrayal was incredibly healing for our relationship. We have a renewed sense of connection and intimacy in our partnership, and we feel confident moving forward with not only our relationship, but with our secondary parters as well.

Before

My partner has developed a ton of jealousy towards my secondary partner, and it's become a stressful situation for all of us. They want me to end my relationship, but that's not something I'm prepared to do. I feel completely confused and overwhelmed without a solution.

After

After processing the jealousy my primary partner was feeling, and having a deeper understanding of what has been going on in our relationship, we both feel a renewed sense of relief. Our communication has improved, and we actively speak up if something is threatening to our polyamorous relationships.

How it works:

We understand that working with a knowledgeable and non-judgmental therapist is important for you to flourish in your relationships. It's why each of our therapists are trained to work with poly folks, and other forms of alternative relationships.

After reaching out to our practice, we'll match you with a therapist who specializes in working with polyamorous relationships. You'll be invited to schedule a free 30 minute video consultation, where all partners are invited to participate in the call. You'll have a chance to meet your therapist, discuss any feelings and issues that have come up in your relationships, and mutually decide to schedule ongoing sessions if it's a good fit.

Meet our poly-friendly therapists in Chicago, IL

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    Michelle Herzog, LMFT, CST

    • Credentials: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist

    • Years in Practice: 12

    • Specialty Areas: Mismatched Desire, Pre-Orgasmic Women, Modern Dating, Painful Sex, Infidelity, Sexual Dysfunction, Transition to Parenthood, Dating Anxiety

    Meet Michelle
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    Corie Carson, LMFT

    • Credentials: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Clinical Supervisor

    • Years in Practice: 7

    • Specialty Areas: Mismatched Desire, Sexual Dysfunction, Consensual Non-Monogamy, General Couples Work, Infidelity, ADHD in Relationships, Identity Exploration & LGBTQ+ Care, Divorce & Breakup Recovery

    Meet Corie
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    Allison Colaianni, LMFT

    • Credentials: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

    • Years in Practice: 3

    • Specialty Areas: Mismatched Desire, Couples Communication, Premarital Therapy, Sexual Shame, Sexual Dysfunction, Painful Sex, Modern Dating, Consensual Non-Monogamy, BDSM & Kink

    Meet Allison
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    Tony Peters, MFT

    • Credentials: Associate Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

    • Years in Practice: 2

    • Specialty Areas: Mismatched Desire, Men’s Sexual Health, LGBTQIA+ Relationships, Infidelity, Out of Control Sexual Behavior, Relationship Jealousy, Anxiety & Depression, Consensual Non-Monogamy

    Meet Tony

  • Alma Quiroz, LPC

    • Credentials: Licensed Professional Counselor and bilingual therapist 

    • Years in Practice: 1

    • Specialty Areas: Mismatched Desire, Sexual Dysfunction, Polyamory and Consensual Non-Monogamy, Infidelity and Violations of Trust, Multicultural Couples Therapy, Couples Communication, Sexual Trauma, Kink and BDSM

    Meet Alma

FAQs about working with a poly therapist

  • Being poly-friendly means that a therapist understands, respects, and supports the diverse relationship structures of polyamorous individuals and relationships. A therapist who is poly-friendly is culturally competent, recognizes the legitimacy of poly relationships, and takes a nonjudgemental approach to treatment.

  • Yes! Consensual non monogamy is a valid and healthy relationship structure. Like all relationship styles, polyamorous relationships can have it struggles, but that does not mean they are invalid or unhealthy. It's important to note that consent is a critical part of being in any kind of open relationship, and that effective communication is the cornerstone of building healthy alternative relationships.

    Participating in poly-affirming therapy can help you decide if open relationships are a good fit for you.

  • Common challenges that folks in the poly community face are boundary violations, breakdowns in communication, jealousy, attachment traumas, and violations of relationship agreements. While these can be distressing, it's completely possible to work through these issues with licensed professionals who are specifically trained to work with the poly community.

    If you're interested in more short-term, highly targeted work, our founder, Michelle Herzog, provides dating coaching. You can learn more about dating coaching here. Dating coaching is a great place to learn actionable tools and build skills for how to date effectively without wasting your time.

Our kink- and poly-friendly therapists are here to support you.

We believe all relationship structures are valid, and are happy to work with you to establish the safe, trusting connection you crave. If you're ready to schedule your free 30 minute phone consultation with one of our poly-affirming clinicians, click here to request an appointment.

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